Dear Elis:

If he is indeed shaking in his boots, as it seems like, I wonder why or how he let you talk to her on the phone, not being afraid that will enrage her…?

There is probably more to the story than he let you know: maybe not that much more, but some. It may be that he did hit her and she had convincing evidence in that regard. But it may be that she hit him too (they hit each other). He is probably not the perfect victim- seems like if he was, he would have been a bit more angry at the injustice of this. She is definitely far from being the … perfect victim herself, chasing him like she does, threatening. There have been interactions between them we know nothing about.

You certainly got attached to him after the online communication and then meeting him twice, second for a whole weekend with him leaving behind his toothbrush (a symbol of commitment of sorts). And then he distanced himself.

You wrote that you blame yourself ” for yet again scaring away another guy”- how do you think that you scared him away???

anita