Dear nickersd:

I used to think that a man is a strong specimen by nature of his sex, being male. I was wrong. There is nothing about a man that makes him constitutionally stronger than a woman other than body build in many cases. That is al: more hair, taller, thicker. Of course there is a whole lot of social pressure on men to take care of families and be strong. This is why men die significantly younger than women, as far as I know. Too much pressure.

Who knows, a man may be weaker than he otherwise would be if not pressured to be so strong, a “real man.”

If you look at your husband as a person, just like you, struggling like he is, needing your support just as much- or even more- than you become an equal partner, supporting as much as being supported.

Having stated the above, which may be relevant to your marriage- is it?- or not- can you give me a couple of examples of the support you ask from him that he doesn’t provide?

And what makes you think you are exhausting him?

anita