Dear lisakelly619:

I like your thread and title: Motion in Relationships”

This moving toward/ moving away dance you are referring to is the very nature of human interaction, business as usual, in a good relationship.

So if you have a good relationship, then you expect your partner to be distant at times. It can’t be any other way. And when you are distant, you are okay with it as it cannot be any other way.

This is the benefit of seeing reality as it is. If we believe in the fantasy that two people can be always as close, always affectionate and loving, then we wrongly figure something is terribly wrong when it is not so at any one time. I wonder how many people figured they fell out of love with a partner because of not understanding this natural motion.

Your solution, or policy, to “to always approach from warm and friendly, open and positive place, expecting the best, and being prepared to give my best and spread my light and love.” Hope you don’t expect yourself to “Always” be friendly and positive and spreading your light and love, for the same reason as the above reality: we cannot be the same throughout the day and every day. There are dark days when I am satisfied with not spreading the darkness, having no intent to spread light and love that I do not experience.

anita