Dear loveleebabe:

First, a side note: if you will be planning to leave, what I would do, if I was you, would be to get legal advice from a resource for abused spouses, and the local police station. Tell them you are afraid of her. Tell them she has threatened you with and ask if there is a chance for her to make real her threats. If possible, make a formal police report listing her threats, in detail. You may find out, after talking to the police, that there is no way for her to legally get you in trouble, and if you file a police report against her, there will be a record of her threats made before you left.

Now to answering your question:”I could walk out the door right now, but what about what will happen. ? Is she going to hurt me? Is it worth th risk? What is yur other thoughts” –

These are my thoughts: yes, it is worth the risk to leave. If I was you, I would leave and never go back. The moment I leave, it will be one way. No going back. The only way I would ever be in her physical presence would be in a courthouse with guards present. I would never talk to her on the phone or correspond with her. Any and all correspondence, if any, will be between my attorney/ legal representative and her.

It is worth the risk because if you leave and never go back, you will rescue yourself from a life of abuse, humiliation, submission. For me, this is not a life worth living. After all, I know this kind of life. I lived it with my mother. I would rather be dead then go back in time and live this way again.

Please post again, anytime.

anita