Dear Brav3:

Welcome back and glad you did get unstuck from believing you are grieving for someone who is worth your grieving. At least you know she is not worth it. But still you hurt and for that I am not glad.

What if you stop wanting to not hurt anymore. Let’s say you see her again, you feel the hurt and you say to yourself: “Well, here’s that hurt again.” Think of it like an itch- oh, here’s that itch again. Uncomfortable but not deadly.

Stop fighting the emotions- notice (of course you notice when it hurts), say: oh, there’s that pain/ itch again. And go about your business.

anita