Hello Brav,

I agree that you shouldn’t search for a formula that will make you constantly happy and seeing her won’t hurt you. It is not possible, and when you push it, it’s even less possible. I was like you regarding another issue, not a break up. I tried t ‘fix’ myself. Make myself able to bring my mind to a higher state where I was untouchable by this issue. You can not imagine with the frustration I faced every time the issue returned, just when I thought I am on a good way of healing.
I wrote this in another post,I will repeat it again. Do a little research on the subject of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. It has amazing results among people. There is this book, called ‘the Happiness trap’.The biggest lie we are told on this world,is that we are supposed to be happy and ok all the time, and everything else is ‘abnormality and sickness’. Well it’ not the true, we are human beings that get sick, that get hurt, and we are supposed to be this way. How can you be happy when seeing someone you loved with another man? Of course it hurts, you are not a robot! It’s suppose to hurt, and it is just an unpleasant feeling that will pass, like a flu. Nobody likes the flu, but big deal, you know you’ll get better in time, why frustrate over it.
Accept your pain and the best you can do is bring some relief to yourself when it occurs, till it goes away… and it will go away. There are many ways how you can help yourself in these difficult days. Five months is nothing, trust me, it’s still early to filter it out of your system totally. You are experiencing pain,but.. You are not your pain. You are this wonderful human being that will go through happiness, breaks up, new loves,new tears, new reasons to laugh. When it comes to broken hearts (i’ve had mine broken more than once) time is the only and the ultimate healer. Just be patient, and that’s enough. Give your mind some time to process the shock, and to figure out how to move on. Yes, your mind is evolutionary designed for this 🙂