Dear loveleebabe”

Thank you for your empathy, I appreciate it very much. And I am sorry as well that you had an abusive mother and are having an abusive wife. Often an abused child, and you were an abused child, grows up damaged and ends up in future abusive situations. And you are in one. So as to your question with an exclamation mark (not really a question): “How in the hell did I marry an abusive woman!”- well, unfortunately it happens often enough: you get used to being abused as a child and you tolerate it later, being used to it, not knowing a difference, how it can be otherwise.

This is why I think that counseling will help you a lot, to come to believe that you don’t deserve abuse, that you deserve to be respected, that you deserve empathy and respect… and that it feels good, and is more important by far than the conveniences you have where you live.

If you don’t want to go to a women’s shelter, maybe you can contact them regarding therapy available for abused women? I mean, you are an abused woman. Maybe look at the Free Resources above (click Home)? You got to get some help so to stop being abused…!!!

anita