Dear “trapped yet comfortable” loveleebabe:

I understand trapped-yet-comfortable. So as long as you are comfortable, you will stay in the situation. Why would I urge you to exit a comfortable situation (I am asking myself)?

And trying to answer my own question as I type: …wrong question. The right question is: should I try to talk someone into leaving a comfortable situation? My answer: no, because that would be a waste of time and effort. People don’t leave comfortable.

So as long as you are comfortable, you will stay. There has always be discomfort in life, even if and when you leave. The choice is not between the life you have and peace-and-happiness when you leave. There is always struggle, in healing itself.

If you chose to leave, it would be leaving behind a struggle that takes you nowhere better in your mind and life and choosing a struggle that takes you to a better place in your mind and life.

Going back to the title of your thread: a tricky choice, isn’t it? Between struggle… and struggle?

anita