Dear iamfree,

Unfortunately, as I’ve read we are making most of our life choices based on emotions, rather than reason. As much as we like to believe we are ‘reasonable’ human beings, this is not true. Anyone with good intentions will tell you, you should count to ten before you burst out, etc…. But I am sure that every person that tells you that, has already made many life choices based on emotions.

So we should not deny or take for weakness our ability to feel, or feel guilty everytime we experience negative emotion. Many suggest that we shouldn’t even fight it cause that will make things worse.. We should acknowledge it exist, observe it, and just use ‘the fight energy’ to ease our transition towards more positive one..

I wonder what makes you angry and what regrets do you have when in comes toward making decisions in this state? Do you say hurtful things you wish to take back? I know I did a lot.

The short ‘fix’ for me, was to at least take a very long walk before I burst out… Physical activity is a good outlet for anger… Punch a boxing bag, run. I remember once I went on a mountain with my boyfriend and we used to shout and scream in order to get out all of my anger.

In the long run run, first you have to accept you have this emotions for some reason, and not blame yourself for having it. And ask what is the cause? It can be triggered by your environment.. if there is a person or situation causing it, you have to deal with that…Maybe it’s a hormonal/medical dis balance in your body? Maybe you are just born as a choleric (one of the four main temperaments, I know some people are just more prone to irritability, they are healthy, not mistreated… but it’s how they are). Whatever that is it can be worked out with change of lifestyle, psychologist, or more alternative approaches… or all at once as I prefer 🙂 I am sure it will be a challenging but also wonderful journey if you wanna engage in it…