Dear hopeful33:

As to why he sent you the email- so to cement his position. It was his way to close his chapter with you. He needed to repeat what he “learned” in therapy, repeat it to you so to make it true to him.

Unfortunately for him, the truth does not accommodate denial, convenient thinking and lies. So it put him at ease temporarily, feeling way less distress as he proceeded to seal the deal and marry the woman approved for him. But he remembers and he knows already, that what he wrote was not the truth.

I didn’t understand your last line about what you wrote at the end of your email to him.

If I could help you with this little thing, I wish I could because this part of your suffering is unnecessary: what he wrote in that email was a temporary make belief thinking on his part (lead to by the “therapist”)- he himself knows it is not the truth, by this time.

anita