So, let’s see. YOu cook, clean and do child care. HE has all the control it seems, and it is “never enough’. You are selling yourself pretty cheap in the relationship, as he is getting quite a bargain. Do you see the hole that you are digging? Controls your activities, (cook for me, clean for me, babysit for me) and you cant even spend your own coin without derogatory comments? Warning signs! He is controlling and is sure to put you down, to put you in your place. He encases his comments in “hah hah” sarcasm, so he can look like the good guy, and you are the complainer…..been there. Married for decades, it doesn’t get better. Are you settling for anything, just because of your age? Friend of mine didn’t marry til 41 – had 2 babies at 44 and 46.DOnt need to settle if you aren’t treated like a queen.