Dear Kelsi:

There is definitely one things that is not negotiable, must not be and that is the verbal abuse you mentioned. Was that discussed? Did he take responsibility for calling you names or otherwise saying degrading things to you or screaming at you (I don’t know the details)?

If he didn’t, a getting back together should be a No, I strongly believe.

Regarding “when we’re hanging out at the bar and I’m tired and want to go home, he’ll say ‘You said you would be more understanding, right?'” – did you tell him that it was you who were wrong in the past when you were tired at 5 am, wanted to go home and he got upset and verbally abused you?

How did you give him “the upper hand?”

Be back at the computer in a few hours.

anita

ani