Dear Katrina:

I want to try again to reply to your thread without giving you advice, as you asked. Here is my new input:

You wrote: ” I am the childish, funny, hyper person while he is the more grown up”- the amazing thing that occurred to me just now is that all through your posts on this thread you display a type of maturity, “grown up”-ness that is rare not only for a 20 year old but for… well, any age.

You are so very thoughtful, so logical, balanced, responsible, clear- you responded so thoroughly to two of the people who replied to you. As far as the boyfriend, you held your (lack of) feelings in for a long time, not a good idea, but not something a child would do, not a childish thing, neither is you being so careful about hurting him before and after the separation- that is not childish.

On the other hand he did not at all behave “grown up”- he was the impulsive one, not wanting to see your face, then begging you, and so forth.

So your initial statement, you seeing yourself as childish, funny… not on this thread. Here you are very serious, mature, grown up and other-concerned.

anita