Hello,

(Little) Insecurity is normal in any relationship and in any period of it, as long as it doesn’t interrupt your chance to be happy and loved. I think that 7 months is that period of the relationship where you still get to know the other person on different level, there are butterflies in the stomach, jealousy can be often issue, emotions run high… Given the fact that he is away and you’ve been cheated on before, it’s no wonder you have some of those ‘bugs’ in your head. My current partner was cheated in his previous relationship, and he often traveled when we started dating… and he struggled to trust me completely even though I never gave him reason not to. It was tiring at times, but given the fact that he was one of the most reasonable and wonderful people I knew, I just decided to give him bit time, and asked him not to judge me for the crimes of his ex… 🙂 As years went by, we had a lot of life struggles, but after that short initial period, trust was never one of them.

I believe we all come with a certain baggage when we enter a new relationship, as much as we try to believe we are starting fresh. The ghosts and the failures of our past can always linger in the background of our mind. So maybe it is no wonder that we sometimes feel that trust is something to be earned, not given just like that from the very beginning.

And when it comes to the long distance, of course it is not the best option… But I know for many relationships during some period it was the only option. It takes strong determination to stay with each other and build a life together to get through this, and also through any other difficulty that will follow. Unfortunately, when it comes to love and future plans, only time has all the answers. We can only do the best we can given the circumstances in the moment, and hope that it will turn out right.

I believe that you and your boyfriend are doing the best you can in this situation, so if nothing else, you can at least be sure about that. I personally wish you a lot of luck, and i sympathize with the fact that he lives in dangerous area, I’ve been through that too. I hope that you’ll end up being happy and safe and together.