Hey Phxinphx,
Perhaps it might be helpful to take a deep breath, or a zillion, when you think about your former CA life. Every experience brings us something new, and it’s important to allow the space for that.

I know that money can create stress, but maybe try enjoying things that are free which usually give more pleasure anyway, like a peaceful walk or a nice conversation with a neighbor. I know that sounds kind of cheezy, but I’ve been in your situation before and I find it’s best to search for pleasures where you can. Go with the flow.

You sound like you really love your husband and appreciate he’s doing the best he can. And you too are also doing everything you can. So just sit back and let things happen as they do. Acceptance is key. Remember, everything happens in its own time. You may not like your present circumstances, but resisting them will only make for an unpleasant life experience for you. And who wants that?

Take care
Pink 🙂