Hey everyone,
My apologies for the rather late reply – it has been a week of upheavals to say the least and i was away, too weary to write coherently.

@Maria_L : You are right about this and I am grateful that you shared your experience. I particularly found these words inspiring “Unfortunately, when it comes to love and future plans, only time has all the answers. We can only do the best we can given the circumstances in the moment, and hope that it will turn out right.” I will remind myself whenever there is a challenging moment. I realized in the last couple of days that I need to be stronger emotionally – There are lot of challenges ahead of us, he is the strongest person I know and i have to grow as well emotionally. I need to take more responsibility for my life instead of dwelling on past mistakes and the failures that occurred.

@Matty: I loved these lines:

But it’s crucial to remember that distance doesn’t stop people from making mistakes or losing trust.

Insecurity is normal in the sense that as humans we are always afraid of losing what we have. – i realized he too has his own set of insecurities, he is scared of losing me as well. The recent events have shaken him too.

If anything, being away from each other gives you a better perspective on the relationship itself. Of course the relationship can ‘weaken’ in the sense that you are not together, sharing the same space as often as you want. But it can also ‘strengthen’ your relationship and make you truly cherish what you have. – This distance is enabling me to learn more of him, we are talking about serious things more openly, expressing displeasure more clearly and I am discovering how much we inherently have in common in terms of where we want to be with eachother. When we lived together at the very beginning of the relationship, the bond was there but i think this last one month has somehow deepened it – the honeymoon is over but we are still here.

@Pretty Face: I am sorry you are suffering like this. I would like you to share more. It would be great if you could start a new thread, then more people will be able to respond. I third B and anita on this. Please do write more.

@Anita: What do you think about all that i have said so far?

Regards everyone,
Nina