Jessica,

Don’t worry about the length of your post. You were actually quite concise! And it’s not stupid either. These type of experiences seem very common in the dating world, so please show yourself some compassion and give yourself loving messages. Friends with benefit situations are fraught with emotional landmines because they so rarely have clearly defined rules/expectations.

Now, I’m of the opinion that regardless of what arrangement/relationship with an individual (platonic friend, committed monogamous romantic partnership, etc.) that you *always* have the right to speak up when the other person is doing something that is hurtful. The fact that he gets mad and defensive when you bring up things that bother you is, in my opinion, a red flag. (Doubly so because he doesn’t apologize afterwards.)

I encourage you to re-evaluate if you want someone in your life who doesn’t treat your with the utmost respect. I’m not saying it wouldn’t be hard to cut ties…sounds like he has a lot of positive attributes and he definitely has a connection with you…but if he’s not showing you basic courtesies like finishing a conversation, it may be healthier for you in the long run to let him go.

Best of luck to you! I hope my words help!

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