Dear sublimechange:

You have a strong Inner Critic, an abusive Inner Critic who gives you a hard time, rains on your parade. “You shouldn’t…”You are wrong to think this, feel this, want this..

When a person outside of you suggests you shouldn’t or that you are wrong to think/feel/want etc., that person triggers your own abusive Inner Critic, activates it and the Inner Critic continues the job started by the ex, cashier.

We all need an Inner Critic, one to tell us to wait our turn in line, to follow traffic laws etc. The inner critic takes after our parent/s. If the parent was gentle and loving in guiding us how to behave socially, then our inner critic would be gentle and loving with us as well. But if the parent was overly critical, punishing, impatient, etc. then our inner critic would be as well.

Does this make sense to you?

anita