Dear Jessica:

I hope I am getting closer to understanding the situation. With patience on both sides (you and me), we will make progress and clear the confusion, I hope. In that aim, more questions:

1. Do you, Jessica, want the relationship to be strictly “friends with benefits”- that is that either one of you calls the other for the benefits to be actualized upon desire and no other contact other than that? Is that what you want?

1b) Or do you want to spend all those hours communicating daily and say sweet things to each other?

1c) Do you want to spend less time communicating with him? Or no time at all other than the strict definition of “friends with benefits”?

2. Why does it hurt you that he expresses emotional attached to ex girlfriends? Do you want him attached to you as a .. friend with benefits?

3. Why do you not want to date other men?

3b) Why do you force yourself to date other men?

4. Are you interested in changing the definition of your relationship with him to that of a bf/gf or are you interested in changing the relationship to that of strictly “friends with benefits”?

anita