Dear Ravi:

I watched Musafa’s death scene, mute (couldn’t turn on the volume) and read about the plot. Watching Simba discovering his father dead, I cried. It was heart breaking. I thought about it some, what it means in your person and life. On my two hours walk I thought further. I have much to say, to suggest. I believed I learned more about you and know more now.

The kind of love that Tintin’s had for his friend Chang and Musafa, for his son Simba, is the kind of love you have for Jerry and it is the kind of love you need her to have for you. Both Tintin and Musafa risked their lives, were willing to sacrifice their lives for the object of their love. Tintin didn’t give up no matter what, went farther than anyone to save Chang. And both, Tintin and Musafa loved ONE person: Chang by Tintin and Simba by Musafa.

You need to be the only one for Jerry, like Simba was for Musafa. If she calls you “brother” then you need to be her only brother, or the most important brother by far. Same if she calls you “friend”- it really doesn’t matter to you, does it, what label she uses and it doesn’t matter to you if it is not a carnal relationship. What matters is that you will be very special to her, far and above any other person.

I have more thoughts and more understandings, but I need to pace myself and check for accuracy before I proceed. Where am I correct and where am I incorrect so far?

anita