Dear Ravi:

When Simba ran away from his dead father, he stopped running because he realized there is nowhere to run, so he went back to seek comfort from the dead body of his father.

That fear of Simba’s face was not one he could handle, so he denied it, denied that indeed his father cannot comfort him or protect him. So he pretended otherwise by covering his small body by his father’s dead arm.

We forget, put it outside our awareness, that we were betrayed, that our parent betrayed us and we keep seeking comfort in that person, pretending there is comfort there, when there is not.

Feelings are contagious only when you already have an experience in you that the feeling attaches itself to. You fear losing your parents because you already have. They are still physically there, like Musafa’s dead body, but you lost the belief in the parent protecting you, acting for your best interest, the belief of being that special as to warrant the parent’s protection.

It is only when you see your parents/ care takers in your life as they are, that you also see who you are and who, in this case, Jerry is.

If you don’t see the first part, you will not see Jerry, and so, you will keep longing for her as a symbol of something else.

anita