Dear Ravi:

Thank you for the whole record of the very last/ most recent communication you had with Jerry’s sister and with Jerry.

This is making the project of writing Jerry a message more clear to me, way more clear. your message to her needs not be angry at her at all (and that will be a change!) It needs to be loving to Jerry. Not attacking her and not defending yourself. No war in it.

Write the message when you are calm, when you are feeling no anger. Don’t write at all about the accusations and how hurt you are. Enough with the anger at her! It really is not her fault that she lives in a society that considers her tainted if she associates with a young man who is not a brother to her. She needs the acceptance of her family just as you need yours. You shouldn’t expect her to turn against her family and the cultural ethics that were instilled in her.

So make it a loving message, nothing angry at Jerry, no games, no manipulations, no demands. Will be back at the computer in ten hours or so.

Take care-

anita