Dear Ravi:
Well, her sister asked you: ““Do you have any idea how much your deeds affected her?”

So you could have said: I am not sure. Tell me: how did my deeds affect her?

I did notice the quote starting with: ““I know you always loved me as your brother only” before and thought it was the best part of your proposed message. Unfortunately, this sentiment is not consistent with you frequently expressing such disdain about Jerry’s feelings of betrayal, rejecting them. I did too, reject her feelings- I confess- because I didn’t understand the cultural ethics here.

On one hand you express empathy for Jerry in this quote and on the other hand, in communications with me and with Jerry, you expressed anger at her for feeling this way. So which is it?

anita