I’m not sure. Doesn’t that sound kind of sarcastic and insensitive… like despite knowing that she’s hurt, I’m hinting that she’s acting or being over-dramatic? I could easily imagine how she was hurt and that’s why wanted to emphasize that I didn’t do it intentionally and tried to avoid revealing my feelings to prevent just that. I apologized after that wanting to comfort her. I know it was hardly good though and I accept I focused more on my side than hers. I’m willing to work hard on this skill of better communication and also being more selfless in focusing on the other’s perspective, to fix my flaws.

To be honest, I felt bad because though I understand her beliefs and all, I felt that breaking a relationship over it despite my trying my best to make up to her is insensitive. My anger was directed more at her sister than her. I felt that she’s just being extremely stubborn in sticking to her orthodox beliefs which have blinded her. And that’s why I was trying to tell her that while I respect her beliefs, breaking our relation over it is not good. Until you explained the full seriousness and gravity of her perspective yesterday, I had not really thought of it in that manner. I admit now that my anger and frustration was misdirected and I empathize with her situation and why she had to make this decision.