Dear Gigi:

You didn’t raise these kids. You are not and have not been their mother so how they behaved with you has nothing to do with your relationship with your mother. And these kids behaved wrong and hurt your feelings, no doubt. You and your boyfriend should have a talk with them, specify to them which of the behaviors they exhibited are unacceptable and tell them they are not welcome unless these behaviors change. Specify what behaviors are acceptable to the two of you.

Maybe they don’t know, maybe they weren’t shown. Maybe they are mistreated. I assure you they were born all good and loving.

anita