It sound like you spend quite a bit of time there, which may explain why most women you meet are from work. Like you said, dating women at work is not the best idea as thing can go downhill fairly quickly from personal experience.

As for women making better choices, I think it’s safe say that their likelihood of making a mistake in partner is far greater than men simply because they generally have more options. Take Internet dating for example, on average women are 30-50 times more likely to be approached than men. If you have 50 women hitting on you on a regular basis, I’d say it would be hard to pick a winner all the time. In fact, I would say women are probably better at this than men since we tend to be visual creatures.

The other consideration here is that if you expect every woman in the world to change your tune before diving in, you probably want to sit down. With your work it sounds like it’s going to be pretty hard to take the armour off in that environment so if you want to dig deeper, it maybe worthwhile to go to a new environment for a while like a holiday. It’s unrealistic to expect personal growth when everything around you is the same. As the saying goes, we don’t drown by falling in the water, we drown by staying there.