Thanks all for replying but still I can’t understand.Fact is I can’t leave him as I love him & also can’t live like this as I miss him alot.
But he make efforts only when I get angry or I fight N says will change etc. But repeats all over again. He was not like this, this change came in last 6 months as our relationship grew closer. I know he loves me, cares for me & want to spend his life with me then why he do so even after knowing it will hurt me.

Oh dear gg4tp, the reason you can’t understand is his behavior is beyond understanding. A person who truly loves you *and* is right for you makes an effort and isn’t constantly fighting with you. The divorce courts are clogged with couples who loved (or in some cases, still love) each other, but love isn’t enough. It’s a very important part of a relationship, but you also need to be able to communicate!

I respectfully disagree with Nina’s post above, this is a repeated pattern of behavior and simply being patient and hoping this blows over is not the way to deal with it. Again, please seek either counseling for yourself and/or for the both you! The fact that you say, “I can’t leave him” and “I can’t live like this” do not paint a picture of a woman ready for marriage. It instead portrays someone who is in deep pain and needs help, probably more than what this site can provide. (I don’t mean that you should stop posting here – far from it – but we posters can only do so much.)

Best of luck to you!