Dear dreaming715:

I should be more humble in my evaluations and analyses, suggest and ask before feeling confident. According to your examples, you acted toward him in a caring way. And it was him who inexplicably withdrew from you. I don’t know why.

In your last few lines you wrote that you may be bringing some hurt into the beginning of a relationship. Then it is something to look into. You also wrote that you believe you are empathetic to the guy- and so, I was wrong.

What I an trying to do is figure things out, figure out the pattern. I got something right, I know so, because you told me I got it right- the lack of assertiveness. Then I examined further, you corrected me where I was wrong, and so we keep going, as long as you are in it with me, we keep going trying to understand, learn for the purpose of acting more and more effectively, so that you do get what you need and deserve, and that is to love and be loved in return.

anita