It sounds like you are going through a rough patch at the moment and I would suggest sorting that stuff out before getting into a relationship. When we are stressed (especially if it affects your home AND work life where you spend most of your time) both our emotional and intellectual capacity decreases. It will inevitabily lead to situations where you feel snappy, less empathetic, distant or my favourite, over thinking (you know that little voice in your head that doubts every move you make? That’s the one).
Relationships are wonderful especially in the honeymoon period but it also comes with a lot of stress because now you have doubled the problems with your interaction with each other as the added interest. If that woman you are talking to is going through a divorce, she probably have a few things to sort out herself as well.
One of my ex have a habit of jumping from one relationship to the next to distract herself from having to deal with her own issues. Those relationships (including ours) inevitably fail because you can’t cure cancer by getting your boyfriend to undertake chemo therapy. You should always keep your life in order before asking someone to move in. Otherwise you can meet the perfect person but you wouldn’t be able to keep her because you are not at a steady place. When that happens, your other problems will come back with a vengeance until your life hits a solid rock bottom. It’s the worst feeling in the world and I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.
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