Dear Leo:

The answer for me is quite simple: you let go of your attachment to your family by not practicing certain behaviors that are motivated by such attachment. Trying to reject and expel your emotional attachment will not work. Choosing to not behave certain ways will work.

For example: you have a desirable job opportunity far away from your family: moving away from your family and taking the job is a non-attachment behavior on your part.

Another example: you are interested in a life partner that your parents dislike but you believe is good for you: having that person as your life partner anyway is non-attachment behavior.

Choosing your career, choosing your friends, choosing your life according to your values, needs, wants and not according to your family’s is how you let go of your attachment to your family.

Key point: examine your values and wants to see that indeed… they are yours!

anita