Hi Carly,
This is somewhat incredible, I had an 8 year relationship with my ex partner though we split up almost 5 years ago if I remember correctly. Her name was also Carly and your story sounds as if I had been on the other end of it.

Call him, please.

If I can say anything for my relationship, as soon as I broke up with her I shattered her heart and crushed mine at the same time. I can remember feeling terribly guilty for a good year after breaking up with her, I wanted to speak with her all year and for years after. I didn’t want to completely loose touch though I knew I could hurt her by staying as a friend. I had to leave completely.

Heartbreak is horrible, if you need to speak with him just go for it. Say everything you need to say and ask anything you want. If he has a backbone he will speak with you, else he doesn’t respect you or is still too hurt.

-Simon.