I think you have actually answered your own questions – but the last final step is always the hardest as you know in your heart of hearts this is really you leaving and moving on as you have grown so much as a person and he simply hasn’t.

You should be proud of that internal voice that is screaming at you to look after yourself – however much at first the new life and routine will be scary and lonely whilst you are well outside your entire life’s comfort zone of doing something that stands up for what you need, not others. It’s not selfish, no one can fully contribute to their life if they’re not first taking care of themselves. Took me a while to learn that one too, being an in-bred people pleaser..

I really hope you cling on to that inner strength to go through with this and see it out…it will be tough but you will end up being the person you are meant to be, with or without him and that’s what you are really fighting for I believe. Good luck, let us know how you are.