Hi @slp1214 I think you’re right to be mad at him in most of these situations, it’s really disrespectful to promise to do things and then flake out. Just because a person is caring or trustworthy it doesn’t mean that they’re perfect, I learned this the hard way. I can relate to you in the sense that I dated someone who was caring and faithful but he was the most boring person in the world and I think he never really listened at me, he even frequently interrupted me when I was speaking. Although I wasn’t happy I kept telling myself that I should stick with him because he was a good person and the only man that had treated me well,-I was forcing myself to be with someone that didn’t fulfill me and whom I didn’t really love, low self-esteem issues. I finally went into a depression and three months later he broke up with me, which was painful but relieving at the same time, because that started the way to my recovery and being myself again (I started going to therapy soon afterwards).
It looks like your boyfriend doesn’t realise the extent of this actions or that he doesn’t think before acting. I suppose you have already talked to him, haven’t you? I think it would be advisable lo let him know that some of his actions are not ok and that it hurts you when he behaves like that. I think that if he really cares about you he should try to be more careful.
JMO
A big hug