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Dear Tessa,
All the things that you mentioned (too intense, too overwhelming) all sound like personal opinions rather than facts. You mentioned that there are people in your life that make you feel that your intensity is your power; those are the people that you need in your life. It sounds like they are the ones that truly understand you and like being around you. As for your best friend, I’m not saying to write her off, but keep being you. Maybe she will learn to love your passionate and friendly personality as your other friends have, or maybe things will change and you both will drift apart. If the latter happens, be kind to yourself and remember that “everything is as it should be.”
Floridajeanne did have a good point though that I could take for myself: sometimes when we are feeling anxious and have a million thoughts in our head and want to share those thoughts with someone we’re close to, it can come out as a little frantic and stressful. Journaling and mindfulness will help this.
All in all, continue being you. Don’t focus on not being something. Shift your focus more on the positive qualities about yourself and everything will fall into place.
Love and Light,
Chi <3