Dear ramy88844:

Anxiety- I define it as excess, ongoing fear. What happens when we are anxious is that the thinking brain is activated big time, trying to find a problem to solve in order for the anxiety to go away. It thinks and thinks and thinks… with no success.

Psychotherapy with a competent, empathetic therapist will help you to stop the ongoing thinking, relax and then think. When you think too much, it creates this fog in the brain and you can’t see clearly through the fog. This is why relaxation is necessary: clearing the fog is necessary for seeing clearly, for thinking clearly.

The guided meditations that my therapist introduced to me were about taking a break from over thinking; observing your thoughts from a calm place instead of being lost in the storms of thinking.

Therapy also helped me get insight into the origin of my anxiety, my childhood experiences with my own mother.

Insight into the past, mindfulness (ongoing meditation, that is ongoing paying attention to my thoughts, feelings, sensations, the environment) and other skills all should be learned in therapy.

Until you get therapy, simple, short guided meditations aimed at calming anxiety should be available online. Start with a five minute long guided meditation, not a lot of words.

Glad you stopped weed and nicotine. Hope you stay away from other drugs. Hopefully competent therapy is available for you. I wasn’t able to “heal myself” (the title of your thread)- I needed help and I did finally find a competent, empathetic and hard working therapist. I sure hope you find one!

Please do post again, anytime.

anita