Dear XenopusTex:

You never put it this way before, on this thread, that there is a part of you that says No to relationships. I know of the distrust of people, much of it understandable. But you also said before that the reason you didn’t have relationships was because you were busy in law school and since, busy at work.

So it is this part of you that says No, that came up with the critique about the lunch date, that she is too short for one, as a reason why it may not be a good idea. Makes me think that part of you communicated the No to her and that is why she didn’t text you since.

What to do…? Part of you says Yes; part of you says No. Makes me think of a courtroom situation (my view is from watching TV and movies, unlike your daily experience in the courtroom), with a prosecutor- the NO part of you, and the Defense, the part of you that says Yes. I can “hear” an argument against relationships and an argument for it. As a matter of fact, this very exercise is a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) exercise when conflicted.

Would you like to do it here? The two arguments… I am tempted to start it myself, for you… which would be wrong. But if you want me to start, pretending I am you, I will. Let me know (Better you do it though…)

anita