Hi Shaun,

I found myself through your thread. Two of my exes were pretty verbally abusive – sometimes, physically (i.e. throwing things or being very close to my face and yelling). Strangely, I had a hard time to move on because I was always remembering how they were. I thought it was their choices as well. However, I realized how wrong I was. I was desperately hoping a change from them until I realized that I AM the changes I needed.To be honest with you, if someone can act, react and behave like that, it was probably a part of them. Deep down, perhaps. It seems like you are willing to constantly evolve and it is such a great quality that you have. Do yourself a favor and continue. Although, just like Anita said, let go of pursuing her love. Be the change in your life. Don’t wait for her to change or evolve because she needs help – I think about anger management therapy or something. You cannot do it for her and if she is not willing to see her own behavior, you’ll wait forever.

I wish you all the best through this.

Savannah