Dear XenopusTex:

Yes, I didn’t think the offer you had in mind was for the moment. The evaluation process, the getting to know her and making yourself known to her, that must take time. You wrote a few posts above: ” I just wish I knew more up front (about her)-

There is no substitute to getting information from her directly, through conversation, asking questions, listening, repeating, asking more- and then you talk about yourself, share, answer questions she asks- this is the process that creates intimacy. If you get information about her upfront, it is likely to be tainted information, distorted by someone’s misperception.

It must be a You and Her process of learning about each other.

anita