Dear carole:

I don’t see a reason to keep this secret from him. Tell him of what you are aware of in a calm way. As long as you can control your emotions so that this will not turn into an argument that will destroy the vacation plans!

Just tell him matter of fact. He should appreciate matter of fact, if he avoids emotions.

Why does it still hurt? Because you were and still are attached to him and to the concept of your family. You still wish that the two of you were married and doing well as a couple.

The more you relax into this still new reality, that he and you are divorced and the marriage is indeed over, the less it will hurt. Over time.

anita