Dear helleia:

If this is what you meant, that most people are lacking in their ability to interact lovingly and intimately with others, I agree. When you wrote that your parents were the “typical parents” and later on I wrote (in so many words) that they socially neglected you or didn’t interact with you adequately, I knew then that it is typical to neglect a child.

You wrote: “Maybe I am the type of person who sees things in a very deep way, and my family rarely filled my craving for that sort of stimulation.” It is my guess that you were not born with an abnormal need for deep interactions that a normal family could not satisfy. It is my belief that you are very likely to have been a child with normal needs and your family, your parents did not satisfy your normal needs.

Maybe you now have a need to … be different and so you present thoughts that I can’t follow, thoughts that are too difficult for me to understand, like in your last two paragraphs.

Like I wrote to you before, I believe things are much simpler than you make believe that they are. You were neglected as a child, you were not validated, taught, and loved adequately. Unfortunate but not complicated. And yes, quite typical.

anita