Hi Jane,

The great thing about having friends and relatives is they can ask your DD, “What are you doing for your mom on Mother’s Day?” or “Wish your Mom a Happy Birthday for me!”

As long as you call her yourself occasionally she will not feel resentful, much less forget those special days.

Some men have their secretaries remind them of these days. Why don’t you enlist a “secretary”? Yes, I know you want it to come from her, but a little reminder (if she’s innocent) or indirect guilt bombing (if she’s guilty) will go a long way.

Hey! OTHER people remember, let them assume over the phone in conversation with her that she’s doing something special for you.

I know how it feels when my birthday is forgotten or overlooked. I GET IT! No card even, just an acknowledgement is all I ask.

Inky