Hi Again,

No, don’t be that way, with tit for tat. Remember, you are her mother, not her peer. The reminder has to come from someone else. It will have more impact.

So I told my kids, true story, “I will visit each of you if you don’t visit me when I am older. You get Easter, you get Thanksgiving and you get Christmas.”

My DD said, “Well, I’m an atheist, so why are you visiting me at Easter?”

“If you don’t celebrate Easter then it doesn’t matter if I visit then, does it?”

Then two of them exclaimed in sudden realization, “HEY! How come HE gets Christmas??”

LOL! Kids! Gotta love ’em, even when they’re grown!