Dear Anita

Thanks for your insight
Maybe I am misunderstanding about your concept about still needing to accept is?
As most, if not all self help books teaches acceptance and forgiveness above anything else. What I found to help me the most with accepting the situations was EFT and havening.

So three years after the redundancy, I finally woke up to the freedom of feeling absolutely nothing with regards to my last job. unfairness or not and accepted what is. I only recalled what i felt in the past so that you could have a better understanding.

My point is why am I finding it still so hard to get another job regardless of pay? I am practically stuck even after all my self improvement work and after all the balloon releasing, tears and self pity have dried up years ago.

I really don’t know. I guess that i have to accept that too, maybe never get another job again and be ok with it and do what VJ and Eckhart Tolle suggested, embrace my freedom now and be happy with something i love doing in the now and let go of expectations.

Assertiveness! yes i agree, i have been actively more incline to say no to people now (but not unkindly). I cannot change how i behaved in the past, but i can do now in the present.

thanks again, i will be writing about this in my gratitude diary today too!