Hello endlessskies,

There’s a quote you may have come across before – “Those who mind don’t matter, those who matter don’t mind”.

You are strong. Strong people also get hurt, and that’s okay.

Yes it hurts when people who don’t know who you really are (i.e. your personality) judge you by appearances. The thing about beauty is that it’s really subjective to different people.

I had recently experienced a situation where a few people acted as if I wasn’t a human being worth their time talking to (like what happened to common courtesy?). It hurt, and I thought about various things related to the situation :

In my gratitude journal: I was grateful I had friends and family who cheered me up when I told them about the situation.

In my personal journal: I wrote about how my self-worth took a hit when I was treated in that way when I didn’t do anything to offend said people.

Lessons learnt from the incident: I would never treat people in that manner, and I’d keep on smiling (even if my smiles have to be forced in certain situations). I feel that if a person brought value to my life, then I would reciprocate in kind – otherwise some people are better off being avoided due to their negativity.

(Well that example is a bit different to your situation, but I think you can relate to gratitude, expressing yourself personally and not bottling up, and reflecting on how you are going to act from then on.)

There will be people who like acting in a somewhat negative manner. It’s not you, it’s them.

Hope this post helps!

Hana

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