Dear mahia:

I will be trying to get the insight you asked for as I type by trying to understand your motivation and his motivation for continuing contact. Correct me if and where I am wrong:

Your motivation is to not feel guilty, to not feel that he is suffering if not in contact with you. Your motivation is not to experience pleasure (which you do not) by talking to him and it is not curiosity that motivates you, as in learning more about who he is- you continue the contact because he has let you know that he suffers when not in contact and you feel it is your responsibility to prevent this suffering of his. It is tiresome for you to be in contact with him, a lot of the time, but you feel like… you Have To,.

His motivation is to have someone listen to him, someone to talk to when he feels distressed…? (need your help here)

anita