Hi. Charlotte. Unconditional Love is what it says. Love is a word full of connotations about all sorts of emotions. ” I love my car” to ” I love you as a person”. It’s sexual connotations are obvious and that’s the way it is usually put over. But, of course, there can be parental love or love for siblings, and even love for our fellow man, but NONE of that is Unconditional Love because it is dependant upon something else. It’s usually “I will love you if…..you look after me, feed me, wash my clothes, give me sex, look after my kids etc. etc.” Unconditional Love has no expectations whatsoever! Is not bound by race, religion, creed, gender; anything. It is pure giving without any desire for reward. If I place ANY condition on it then it’s not unconditional, is it?
If your partner wants to leave you and go elsewhere then your reply is OK, do that. “Although I love you you have to do what you feel is best for you”. Now you will appreciate how difficult it is and I am in no way minimising the difficulty. It really is a total abandonment of desire. A complete giving of yourself to any situation. If your love is rejected then that is how it is. No regrets or ‘what might have beens’. Difficult? Yes indeed, because the habit of so called love has become so tainted with need it has lost all meaning.