Dear B:

You know, do you, that you were not born suicidal and otherwise troubled, that it is not at all likely to be a genetic thing? We are formed in childhood as a direct result of our relationships with our care takers and their relationship with each other as we experience it by proxy. Our childhood years are called our Formative Years because our brains are formed during those years.

Safety in childhood in necessary to be healthy then and as an adult. Unfortunately, safety was not the reality of your childhood and so trouble for you started.

I sure hope you do move out and study in the UK, away from your parents very soon.

I re-read your original post. You wrote there: “I’m sure people may rightfully say I need a break from this person until my feelings subside or to cut them from my life.” You were referring to the young woman you’ve been involved with on and off.

Do you think you need a break from your parents? I mean, to permanently live on your own- as soon as possible- having limited or no contact with them? For your own mental health..?

anita