Dear trulatique:

It reads to me that it will be the right thing for you to end this relationship with the man. He makes you miserable while he is in jail and most likely will do the same when he is out of jail.

You wrote that you don’t want to hurt him, but he is hurting you. Don’t let him hurt you anymore.

I understand you had a bad experience before, in your seven year relationship, the guy cheated. But it doesn’t mean that you have to settle for another kind of misery.

I do wish you end all contact with him and set yourself free. If you can, please attend psychotherapy with a competent, caring therapist who will help you end this relationship and move on to better things, make better choices.

Do post anytime. I am sorry you are hurting and hope you feel better soon; hope you be good and kind to yourself.

anita