Dear rm2b:

I have an idea that might help the two of you. This very thread here on tiny buddha! Everything you posted here, in your original post and the last post was not meant for him to read. If you share this thread with him, following my advice that you do, he will be able to read your honest thoughts and feelings, such as:

“After relocating, I realised that I was in the wrong relationship and that I loved my best friend and want a life with him.

We have somehow got to the point where we have accepted each other as best friends but as lovers too.

I feel like kicking myself in the head for taking so long to come to my senses and having undergone another relationship, putting me and my now fiance through a lot of pain and unwanted issues.

We have lost time in life that was meant for just us two.”

And in your last post:

“He’s been in struggle for too long and sometimes I convince myself that he’s used to being on the shortchanged end for too long so this is a natural reaction at reflex.

I don’t want to change my fiance as a man because I love him just as he is, with all his flaws, insecurities and mood swings too.”

In your posting here you are expressing such love for your best friend and fiancé, such concern, understanding, empathy, good will, best intentions; such acceptance of him- if I was your fiancé, knowing this thread was not meant for him to read, but reading it anyway following my advice- I would be thrilled.

You did not post a thread regarding any other man in your past. You registered here as a member and posted about your fiancé and with his well being on your mind- THIS HERE is a FIRST.

anita