Dear Wendy:

This is my input from my understanding of the situation:

1. Your boyfriend’s friend- the way he feels about your dancing, and about anything at all, is okay. We don’t choose our feelings, it is an automatic reaction, and therefore I don’t judge a person by his/ her feelings. Depending what the friend said- if he went on and on about the dancing, making sexual innuendos, your boyfriend should not have listened to that.

2. If the friend told his family how he feels and you have no contact with his family, that is his business.

3. But since the friends expressed his feelings to your boyfriend/ you, there are consequences- or should be consequences- him not being invited to any event where you may dance. I would insist on that (assuming you wouldn’t feel comfortable being watched by him!)

4. The friend should not tell anyone who has contact with you or with your boyfriend about his feelings regarding your dancing. That is gossip and it is offensive. He should keep his feelings to himself or express them to people who know neither.

anita